“But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, purifies us from all sin (I John 1:7).”
It’s a terrible thing to be alone in your struggles. Life is full of them, and for some of us, we seem to get more than our fair share of strife, trouble and woe.
Members of my family and I have known isolation. One reason for this is because we have moved numerous times in the last several years. I’m not in the military service, but our lives are somewhat similar in terms of being transients.
Another reason for our isolation, and more painful, is that a good many people are cold. People just don’t care for each other. This might be due to everyone being too absorbed in their own problems to reach out, or it could be due to plain old selfishness. I don’t know.
In our last stop in Finland we were pretty much isolated. I didn’t do much to get out of our hole, but my wife did. She befriended lonely international students and invited them into our home. I admire her for that.
I have never understood the Psalmist words when he said, “I believed; therefore I said, ‘I am greatly afflicted’ (Psalm 116:10). My lack of comprehension stems from my failure to understand until l recently that there is a cause and effect relationship between believing in God and suffering. The result of putting our faith in Christ will be suffering.
Isolation has been one of the crosses we bear in our family. There have been moments of relief, however: E-mails andd phone calls from best friends; the Finnish-American woman in Finland who befriended my wife and kids; the Christian couple we have known for a lifetime inviting us to their beautiful home and helping us move; one of the pastors and his wife in our new church going out of their way to give us assistance.
While E-mails and phone calls are nice, having relationships with flesh and blood people is the best way to break out of a lonely life. Having physically present friends we can depend on is essential to our emotional well being. These can only be found locally (Proverbs 27:19,10).
You don’t have to lack friends to be lonely. We can be alone in our own homes because of bad relationships there. It is better to fix them than to run from the problems , which I have admittedly done (Proverbs 27:8).
The apostle John could tell other people about the real Jesus because he knew Him as a friend. He had seen, heard and touched Him. While other people he talked to may not have had the privelege to know Jesus personally, having fellowship with John was the next best thing in this life. (I John 1:1-3).
As a kid I read “Superman” comic books. When he wanted to be alone, he went to some place up in the Arctic to his “Fortress of Solitude”. By nature I like to be alone. I prefer it. However, too much solitude is not healthy. I have made my own Fortress of Solitude my permanent home. It’s a dark place.
For the sake of myself, my marriage and my kids I want to turn the Fortress of Solitude into a vacation spot and build a lasting home full of light. The lonely darkness only breeds sin and lack of perspective. As a foundation to this news home, I have to include other people. I intend to be selective, however, as to who I let into my inner circle. They have to have been with Jesus.