“His master replied, ‘Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your master’s happiness (Matthew 25:23)’!”
I would never get my theology from a TV drama, but sometimes their writers get it right. The rest of the show may be filled with language, violence or sexual situations, but occasionally there is a grain of truth in a storyline or dialogue.
Such is the case with the medical drama “House”. In a recent episode, two members of Dr. House’s team are talking about marriage while diagnosing a patient. Dr. Foreman and Dr. Taub are discussing the insecurity of the latter’s wife. Taub is asking his fellow what he should do.
Dr Foreman : “So your wife is a little insecure. Is that so bad? At least you know she still cares.”
Taub: “I know she cares. What I want is for her to be happy.”
Dr gives him a smug look.
Dr. Taub sees the glance and says,”What? You don’t think I want my wife to be happy?”
Dr. Foreman: “Sure. As long as it makes you happy.”
Ouch! There is an old proverb that says, “If mama ain’t happy, nobody’s happy”. I suppose a lot of us are trying to make our wives happy for the sake of our own peace. We may truthfully want to make our wives to be happy, but our main priority in the effort is our own contentment. That’s pretty selfish.
Marriage does involve sacrifice. We indeed may have to give up our own desires in an effort to make them happy. Seeking another’s happiness is one of those things that makes a great desire, but a lousy goal. Any goal that involves the response of someone else is a poor one because we have no control over them. However, we can still try to fulfill our desire to make our spouses happy.
Is happiness even an appropriate desire for a Christian? It may not be the highest priority to God that we be happy in this life, but He doesn’t seem to have anything against it. In fact, He wants us to he happy. Indeed, His Word seems to indicate that any true happiness in this life is a result of our relationship with Him (Psalm 68:3; Psalm 113:9; Ecclesiastes 5:19).
While it is important to do our best to make our spouses happy, what is more crucial is that we make God happy. The only way we will be truly happy is if we share in His. Therefore, the best thing we can do to make our loved ones happy is to be an encouragement in their own relationships with God.