“For the LORD watches over the way of the righteous,but the way of the wicked leads to destruction (Psalm 1:6).”
Dr. Chris Taub’s face has been splashed all over town on a billboard in an episode of the medical drama “House” called “Larger than Life”. By the end of the show, Taub is throwing globs of paint at his image in the dark.
Taub’s face has been chosen as a marketing tool by the hospital where he works because he appears trustworthy. The slogan appearing with his picture is “Be Better”. He knows at heart that he is far from the view portrayed of him to the public.
Taub has had a problem in the past being faithful to his wife Rachel. While he professes to love her, and she him, the missus has taken up with a man online to get what she hasn’t been getting emotionally from her husband.
Rachel has never met this man. Yet, she shares intimate details with him (which she doesn’tdo with her husband) and has developed feelings.
This has made Rachel happy. In a funny twist, the effect of her higher emotional state has made her more amorous with her husband.
However, Taub thinks he sees through it all. He believes that since Rachel can’t engage in physical “l’amour” with this fellow from the Internet, she is using him as a substitute.
Once Taub has this seeming epiphany, he tells Rachel he believes they should get a divorce. He tells her that what she is doing is indeed his fault, and gets her to admit that she is not really happy.
TV critic Barbara Barnett summarizes what is going on inside of Taub and asks some good questions:
“Realizing her relationship is his own fault, Taub is disgusted with the image projected by the billboard image. He is a small man inside, and refusing to understand where Rachel is coming from, proposed to end their 11 year marriage. But has Taub overestimated the relationship between Rachel and the confidante? Does the relationship (in his mind) become needlessly intimidating? Or is it just an excuse to finally end a marriage to which he wasn’t all that committed anyway?”
Dr. Taub wants to walk away from the difficulties of his marriage. He doesn’t have the courage or will to fight for the woman he says he loves.
Walking away from a noble fight has a long history. This type of thing is even documented in the Bible.
Israel was preparing to cross the Jordan River to engage the tribes in the land God had promised to them when things hit a snag. A couple of the Israelite tribes, the Reubenites and Gadites, went to Moses and told them that they wanted to plant themselves where they were and wouldn’t be coming along.
Moses reminded these recalcitrant folks what had happened to to previous Israelites who had refused to fight for what God had promised them. He told them that God had become angry and punished them (Numbers 32:1-13).
Moses further said to them,“And here you are, a brood of sinners, standing in the place of your fathers and making the LORD even more angry with Israel. If you turn away from following him, he will again leave all this people in the wilderness, and you will be the cause of their destruction (Numbers 32:14-15).”
Occasionally, though, the Israelites produced individuals who fought for them. One of these people was a woman, Queen Esther.
A ruthless man named Haman had conjured up a plot against the Jews in the Persian Empire. However, his plot had been discovered and he had been executed.
Unfortunately, the problem for the Jews was not over. A law had been passed dictating their destruction. In Persia, once a law had been issued, it was irrevocable.
Esther, at the risk of her life, went to her husband the king and said:
scepter to Esther and she arose and stood before him.“If it pleases the king and if he regards me with favor and thinks it the right thing to do, and if he is pleased with me, let an order be written overruling the dispatches that Haman son of Hammedatha, the Agagite, devised and wrote to destroy the Jews in all the king’s provinces. For how can I bear to see disaster fall on my people? How can I bear to see the destruction of my family (Esther 8:5-8)?”
In response, the king issued a proclamation allowing the Jews to defend themselves agains those who might attack them. As a result, they soundly defeated their enemies (Esther 8:11-9:17).
Where did Esther get her courage, a bravery that not only saved her family, but her whole nation? It isn’t difficult to figure out. She had a godly uncle named Mordecai who raised her, and encouraged her to defend her people.
When the leader of the home provides a good foundation of hearing and obeying God, then that home can withstand severe onlslaughts. On the other hand. of the head of the home doesn’t do this, or even sets the pace in wrong living, then that house is on quicksand (Luke 6:46-49).
Dr. Chris Taub’s behavior had led to the downfall of his marriage. Instead of battling to rebuild it and set his home on a good foundation, he gave up and walked away. He refused to try and “be better”.
We humans have been created in the image of God. The only way we can be better is to live out that image.
Taub throwing paint on his own image was appropriate. His was marred. God’s isn’t. Only a face with His reflection deserves to go on a billboard.
If we walk away from our marriages and our families when things are bad, we won’t solve anything. In fact, we will set in motion destruction.
“We expected something, something better than before. We expected something more. Do you really think you can just put it in a safe behind a painting, lock it up and leave? Do you really think you can just put it in a safe behind a painting, lock it up and leave? Walk away now and you’re gonna start a war (from “Start a War” by The National).”
The message from God is clear. When the battle is hot, don’t walk away. Be better.